Tiger Woods, Jessie James, Bill Clinton, Erik Bennet, Jude Law, Kobe Bryant, Jon Gosselin, David Letterman … What do all these names have in common? If you guessed cheating men, you are right (Disclaimer: these men are accused of cheating, we don’t know for sure if they are really guilty). Please wait before pulling out the tar and feathers because this article will not be targeting these cheating men or other cheating men. I don’t want to talk about them right now, trust me, I’ll get to them later. I want to talk about women who cheat on kidnapped men. I want to talk to you, if you are thinking of cheating with a kidnapped man (or have cheated with a kidnapped man). Before you get upset, I want you to know that this article is written for you out of love and not out of condemnation. This article is intended to protect your heart and that of others from unnecessary pain and pain.
Ladies, if you are in a relationship, engaged or married, you are a taken man and should be left alone. Stop and run in the completely opposite direction from him. You don’t want a man taken, regardless of what your hormones, emotions, or feelings are telling you. If you get involved with a kidnapped man, you are looking for trouble in your life. You just signed a lease for drama and heartbreak.
Most women who cheat with kidnapped men do so because they want to have a relationship with the man they are cheating with. They want to be the main woman and not the lover. New Flash: It doesn’t work like that !!! If you think he’s going to leave her for you, you’re probably wrong. I don’t care what promises he made to you. Don’t believe a man who says he is going to break up for you. It almost never happens, this is a fairy tale. I know Brad Pitt dumped Jennifer Aniston for Angelia Jolie, but that rarely happens. The Monica Lewinsky / Bill Clinton situation, or as I like to call it, is the “hit it and leave it” situation happens more often. If you are a woman who is cheating on a kidnapped man, you should know that the odds are against you. Most men do not leave their girlfriends or wives. A man will often cheat on a woman with whom he has absolutely no emotional connection. Men will often view their relationship as purely physical gratification. Women will often mistake their physical relationship for something deeper. You may even lie to her and tell her that they have a deep connection just to keep her close. You can make promises that you will leave your girlfriend or wife after certain events happen. For example, a man might say, “I am going to leave my wife when the children grow up. I don’t want my children to grow up without a father like me.” The children grow up and the man finds another excuse to stay in the relationship. The truth is, the man never planned to leave his wife in the first place.
Some women are reading this article now and they don’t believe that what I am saying applies to them. So now I want to address those ladies. Let’s say you get your wish and the guy leaves his wife or girlfriend for you. Do you really think he won’t do to you what he did to his wife or girlfriend? You may think that this is not going to happen because; You are nothing like his ex. I’m sure he told you that his ex was a horrible person and that you are completely different. This is a line that a guy will use to try to convince you that you are safe from his cheating ways. Don’t believe this lie. If you cheated on your ex, you are a cheater! Most likely, a cheater will cheat on you. How can you really trust a man that you know is a liar and a cheater? A man who has integrity and understands true commitment does not leave his relationship to be with someone else. There is no excuse for cheating, if a person is really unhappy or is being mistreated in a relationship, they should leave that situation before starting another, regardless of the excuse. If you like someone and they are in a relationship with someone else and they are chasing you, you should say: “I am interested in you, but nothing can happen until you finish your previous commitment.” This statement will let them know that you are a woman of integrity, that you respect yourself and others. If they are not willing to end their commitment to their partner, then they are not for you! You must move on and you must instruct them to stop chasing you. Don’t try to convince them to leave their wife or girlfriend, let them make a decision without your influence.
If you are thinking of “dating” a married man or a taken man, please think again. You are not only hurting the other woman involved, you are hurting yourself. Put yourself in the other woman’s shoes. Ask yourself, “How would I feel if this was happening to me? Think about how your actions may affect other people besides yourself. What if the man has children? How will his actions affect their lives? If you can’t think about no one but yourself, remember this: you reap what you sow. You think you will have no consequences for your actions, then you should think of America Idol’s Fantasia Barrino. She started a relationship with a married man, his wife sued her for dating with her husband. As a result of the lawsuit and stress surrounding this situation, Barrino attempted suicide. Luckily, Barrino attempted to thwart her life. We must learn from Barrino that dating a married man can have some serious consequences. Ladies, if he is a kidnapped man, you must leave him alone!