stagnant

adjective

(from a body of water or from the atmosphere of a confined space) that has no current or flow and often results in an unpleasant odor.

“a stagnant ditch”

synonyms: still, motionless, static, stationary, standing, dead, lazy; Plus

showing no activity; boring and slow.

“a stagnant economy”

Synonyms: inactive, lazy, sluggish, lethargic, static, flat, depressed, declining, dying, dying, dead, dormant

(Google definitions)

~ If I had to choose just one word to describe myself lately it would be this, stuck. No current or flow? Yes. Immobile, immobile, stationary, loose? Yes. Inactive, slow, lethargic, depressed, inactive? Yes Yes Yes.

If there’s one thing I’m good at, it’s pointing out my own flaws and weaknesses. I should have a crown because I’m the Queen of some pretty bad features in my own mind. Another weakness I have… stepping aside and letting others who have stronger, more dominant characteristics take over. I am not confrontational. I’d rather allow myself to be weak just to avoid having a difficult conversation with someone. Knowing this about myself made it impossible for me to see myself as a leader.

What I didn’t realize is that there are different types of “leaders”. And we all lead in different ways depending on where our strengths AND VALUES lie. We grow as we develop more strengths and continue to focus on our values. When we try to work with people who have different values ​​than our own, everything can get nervous.

When it comes to building your business, it’s important to keep your values ​​written down somewhere you can see them regularly. He continues to remind himself of them, because as soon as he forgets them, he starts attracting the wrong kinds of people to his business, HIS Tribe.

In the last few months I have been busy with constant personal development and took a “Life Coaching” class. I loved the class because Coaching, instead of Leading, allows the person to create their own positive changes and determine who they want to be, without someone telling them who they should be. But, the most significant change I’ve had recently was when we lost an employee at work. Suddenly I was the only person there to get the job done, all of it, plus the extra jobs that were sent to me daily just because they still needed to do it. Surprisingly, as soon as it happened, I instinctively jumped into action.

The “Leader” in me resurfaced. I worked day after day, stack after stack of papers, rearranged, reprocessed, streamlined tasks, and dusted off. Yes, I said sprinkled. I was always so busy at work that I never found time to dust my office area. I could see it, but I couldn’t remove it. Every time I moved something and saw the dust, I felt like I was unable to do everything I was supposed to, I can’t stress enough how important it was for me to get that dust out of my focus.

Less than 3 weeks later, our office is running smoothly. The stacks of paper are gone, work has caught up, and even patients have noticed a difference.

I should probably join this entirely. First, I NEEDED to work on personal development and stop being stagnant. Nobody could do that except me. Then I had to re-evaluate my values ​​and figure out who and what didn’t align with them. Those things and people had to be pushed at arm’s length, which made it very difficult for me to have a conversation with someone. Having that conversation dusted me off. It was difficult and made me feel anxious; Thinking about it made me want to crawl back to the sideline where I was, but I knew I had to.

Now that the dust is gone, I no longer feel like I’m suffocating.

Sometimes growth comes in surprising ways. It’s not always nice, and sometimes it even hurts you and/or others.

Do you need to dust off some area of ​​your life? Is there something that suffocates you and prevents you from breathing completely? Do you feel held back? It’s okay to do something about it, you’re worth it.