Eight out of 10 marriages in the 1950s worked and were generally successful by today’s standards. Of course, the selection criteria were very different. Personality, the ability to raise a family, good manners, kindness, and respect were mandatory attributes. Given that far more than 70% of today’s marriages in major cities end in divorce, we must ask ourselves “who is setting them up?” It is obvious that the devil is involved in the selection process.
Mark 10: 9 says, “Therefore what God has joined together, man must not separate.” That scripture supports the previous verse of Mark 10: 8 “And the two will be one flesh; so they are no longer two, but one flesh. That is wonderful, but what about the times when it is the devil, and Not God who Finds out how to recognize them. Here are some facts that should surprise you: Approximately 80% of women in the world’s largest metropolises who choose a husband are more likely to win the lottery than to make their marriage work. divorce statistics, if you think I’m kidding. The reason is simple: Most choose a man based on how he looks, how much property he has, or how he makes the woman feel. That system may work for cars. However, for “The Vehicle precious “to lead one down the bumpy road of life,” then ladies, you must do better than that.
Do not look for an article of mine on how to detect the wives that the devil sends because it is the men who choose. What I’ll do is point out guys who will turn any house into hell by showing the symptoms and teaching how to discern the term “hell-lifter.”
Every human being is a vehicle wrapped in a package. The condition of the parts, the make of the engine and its ability to maintain lasting relationships are spiritual characteristics, not physical. So when you choose a man based on his physical attributes, you are simply guessing, hoping the relationship will work. Take a look at Hollywood, a town of rich and beautiful people. EVERYONE DOES IT WRONG – 99% OF THE TIME; you are using the wrong formula.
PERSONALITY: Let’s examine the fickle and elusive term: personality, the single most important ingredient in making a relationship work. The ingrained characteristics of a person, not temporary carnal ones. Actors / actresses are great examples. They are role players by profession. They represent wonderful characters BUT they can have horrible personalities. Years ago, I fell in love with a certain famous singer. One night she and a late famous singer arrived with an entourage of 12 at the (now closed) Atmosphere when I performed the “Sparrow 25th Anniversary Show.” If she had asked the owner to allow them access because they were on a yacht on site for the weekend, she would have accommodated them. Instead he texted me that I MUST have a table for 12 because of the names of the people in the entourage. Remember: she couldn’t have known I was in love with her because not only had we not met, but I never told anyone. My response was the cruelest he has ever uttered. All vibrations disappeared and died instantly. So simply put, personality represents the most dominant spirit that controls a person. Agape must be the most sought after. Unfortunately, other counterfeits: lust, fornication, adultery, homosexuality and lesbianism, rape and incest have been voluntarily invited into human temples and usurped the “righteous spirits” of many people – Psalm 51. All of those Spirits inject negative traits and leave spiritual seeds that must be purged through repentance and forgiveness, otherwise they hatch and cause incurable diseases and incongruous “personalities”.
TYPES: Since no man exposes his bad habits unless he loses his cool, you should check the fruits before buying eternal problems for yourself and all your offspring. For people with strong religious backgrounds, the term “discernment” is their tool. For others, let’s look for some positives. As a general rule of thumb, a man who grew up in a loving family where respect and love permeate the entire home, those are good first indicators. That does not mean that a person from a broken or dysfunctional home will be a bad companion. We speak of inclinations: people who are inclined to do what they have seen in their homes or surroundings. A man who has never seen a woman be beaten and is taught that such behavior is repulsive, will not dream of doing so, under normal circumstances.
The volume referenced below documents case histories of opposing personality types and the spiritual energies that drive them. For the sake of brevity, here are some traits to recognize and the types that possess them to avoid:
1. Short-tempered, excessively impatient, always grumpy and prone to violence.
2. You get paid one day and break the next. You are buying a life of poverty for yourself and your children.
3. Always looking longingly at every woman he sees, even in your presence.
4. In love with himself: always looking in the mirror to admire himself.
5. Look at other men with admiration.
6. Hates children.
7. I can’t stand the members of your family.
8. Very dishonest; always trying to get over it.
9. Poor hygiene habits: the mouth and teeth are seriously neglected.
10. Most important of all: you hate hearing God’s name. He doesn’t want to hear anything from God.
Since all people born on this earth are imperfect and have all developed imperfections, there is only one way to ensure that the specific seeds that destroy marriage do not germinate and ruin your marriage. As the book referenced below mentions, the night before marriage is the perfect time to do what is called a generational purge, a spiritual cleansing whereby you and your future spouse apologize for all known shortcomings and unknown. Ask God to remove all the negative traits and obstacles that can ruin your marriage. Remember that the first thing Satan did on earth was destroy a relationship. He’s still doing it. On the other hand, remember, Agape is a God-ordained love that grows and strengthens when two people are not afraid to make sacrifices for each other. It is selfless; it is friendly and durable. Look inside the package first; Check the lower levels first and spot the danger signs before it’s too late.