1. How many relationships can you fully cultivate in your life?

The closest friendships seem to last forever without nurturing. Years
they pass and when they meet they disappear instantly. Other friends should
be fed and watered. For many of us the number of relationships we can sustain
is finite, this is the concept of the Circle of Ten. What is the number of
friends you can hold See also #2.

2. How much time are you able to invest in a new friendship?

If you are able to nurture more relationships in your life, how long
do you have to invest? If time is short, is the goal important enough?
to deserve to abandon some other activity or responsibility?

3. Are you really looking for a friend or rather another acquaintance or someone
whose main role is to support you and can you tell the difference?

Friendship is a partnership and not something superficial; are you ready to be
an equal partner in terms of give and take?

4. Do you have any acquaintances who, after an investment of time, could
become true friends?

Finding and making friends with currently unknown people can be a
time-consuming process (but see points 9 and 10). Can you abbreviate it by learning
more about the people you already know?

5. What personal characteristics have attracted you to your friends in the past?

Which features are you looking for, which ones would you expressly avoid?

6. Every once in a while I meet a soul mate and there is an instant reunion of
hearts and minds. More often, friendship is built more slowly. In any
case the first stage is to meet someone and recognize something along the way
they smile, talk or act whatever arouses their interest.

7. In my experience, those initial meetings become real and lasting.
friendships through the pursuit of shared goals or sharing stressful experiences.

What are significant interests that you would like to share with a friend?
as we build that relationship?

8. Is it easier for you to make friends of the same or opposite sex?

What issues does this raise with your partner and how will you address
them?

9. Today’s time is short: If you don’t feel comfortable going directly to a
possible new friend the possibility of developing a true friendship, it is
this is an area for you to stretch your risk taking muscle and with this
particular person might that approach backfire?

10, The time today is short: if you judge the use of words to speed up
development of a reckless friendship, what are the unspoken rituals that signify
Moving a relationship to a higher level?