As we approach the end of the year, the idea of ​​establishing new resolutions seems for the best. Most people will solve the same or similar things year after year. Topping the list: lose weight, get organized, and save more money.

Not that those aren’t fantastic resolutions. They are. The problem is, we usually brace ourselves, make a great start, find that we can’t do it perfectly, and quit. Then we feel bad about our efforts and start eating cheesecake or going shopping.

There are some wonderful articles on how to rephrase resolutions to be goals that we don’t have to do perfectly. Or break the big targets down into little nuggets that we are more likely to be able to handle. Creating a plan is another idea, so you have a manageable roadmap instead of a huge, nebulous monster that has to fight the ground.

I would like to propose a different idea. Instead of setting goals or making resolutions, create an annual wish list.

We hear from people who do this as they age or if they get sick. But most of us will not know when we will leave the planet. And while we may die five pounds less or with a beautifully organized closet, I think it may be more important to do the things we’ve always wanted to do.

The best way to start is to create a long list of everything you want to do. Without limits. You never know when opportunities may present themselves. Do you want to dive in Australia? Starting a non-profit organization? Do you serve in the Peace Corps? Learn to play the violin? Put those things on a list! Then break it down into what you will be doing this year.

Involve your spouse, children, friends, and coworkers. If you share some dreams, maybe you can make them come true along with the added benefit of enriching your relationships.

It may be that by the end of next year, you’re crossing things off your bucket list or getting closer to achieving them, but it’s certainly more refreshing than creating puritanical restrictions on yourself. And along the way, you may find that you lose weight by having affairs, organizing yourself as a means to an end, and saving money because you’re doing what you love so you don’t have to invest in as much retail therapy.