Did your girlfriend just cheat on you? Oh. Any boy who hasn’t had to go through that is very lucky. Whether you want to forget her or just the fact that she cheated on you, I have some tips for you.
1. Don’t think about it – The worst thing you can do is keep imagining what happened. If you keep reminding yourself, you will be bitter about it.
Whatever happens, it is now in the past. If you don’t learn to leave it blank and you still want to have a successful relationship with this girl, you will be tempted to talk to her and you will always be suspicious. It is not healthy.
2. Can I trust her? – This is a difficult question and you will have to make your own decision here. Unfortunately, many people who cheat are likely to do so again. Do you really want to go through the stress of knowing it could happen again? If it was a long time ago, proceed with caution.
If you decide to take her back, you must trust her completely or not date her at all; nothing in between. If you always ask her, if she is sleeping with another man and generally picks herself up about it, then she might stop trying and cheat on you again.
Having total faith in your partner, even if they have cheated on you before, is your best chance to avoid the problem again.
3. Did it cheer you up? – Not all cases are the fault of unfaithful partners. If she wasn’t happy with you, you may have contributed to it. I don’t mean how good you are in bed. That is irrelevant.
Did you always suspect her all the time? Did you always accuse her of things she didn’t do? Are you controlling? Are you always jealous? These are all traits that can lead to your girl cheating on you. If he’s feeling happy and free while hanging out with you, let alone a possession, he’s probably not even thinking about cheating on you.
4. Is it worth it? – Of course, the problem could be all hers. Some girls (and boys) need to feel desirable. They thrive with as much care as possible. If a boy wants them, he can’t say no. These guys are usually drama queens, to top it off.
Until she grows up, don’t bother. These types of women are not worth it and you will feel frustrated. There are many loyal and attractive girls out there. Don’t spend your time, energy, and emotions on a girl who can’t respect what a faithful relationship is.
5. Have fun – Only if you’ve broken up with her. I do not encourage you to cheat on her as revenge. You will just find yourself in a big emotional mess until both of you are left picking up the pieces on your own.
If you’ve broken up with her, see as many girls as you want. Just go out if you don’t want to have sex. Either way, when you start making friends, you will find yourself moving forward. You will forget about the past and you will forget that your girlfriend is cheating on you. You will realize that you are not missing anything and you will feel sorry for the next guy who goes out with her; you will know exactly what you will have to put up with.
Decide what you want and stick with it. Have you broken up and want to get over it? Learn the best way to get over a breakup. Or are you thinking of giving it another try, but are not sure you can trust it? You know it and you have to decide for yourself. Personally, I never give a cheater a second chance, because I know that I deserve better and that I can improve.
But if you decide to give her another chance, you have to trust her completely. She may regret it and want to know that you trust her. She will want to know that you can still believe in her despite what she has done. If you can’t do this, the problem may recur.